THE CHAIR THEORY: UNDERSTANDING CAPACITY, SUPPORT & WHY YOUR NEEDS WERE NEVER "TOO MUCH."

There's a simple little idea that's been reshaping how women all over the world see their relationships, their support systems, and their own worth. It's called The Chair Theory. And once you hear it, something inside you exhales - because suddenly, so many of your past experiences make sense.

So... What is The Chair Theory? Image you 're about to sit down. You look for a chair - something sturdy, something, stable, something that's meant to support your weight. Now ask yourself this: If the chair collapses, does that mean you're too heavy? Or does it mean the chair wasn't built to hold you? This is the heart of The Chair Theory: Some people simply do not have the emotional, mental, or relational capacity to support you - not because you're "too much," but because they're not structurally equipped for the weight of who you are. • And that weight isn't a burden. • It's your depth. • Your honesty. • Your vulnerability. • Your needs. • Your humanity. • Your story. • Your heart. Chairs come in different strengths Some people are like solid, handcrafted wooden chairs - dependable, grounded, supportive. Others look beautiful but are hollow, fragile, unstable. They mean well, but they can't hold much. Some chairs are temporarily broken. Some are missing pieces. Some have been neglected or damaged over time. Some were never built for emotional weight at all. And some? Some are simply not your chair. It's not about blame - it's about capacity This theory is not an excuse for harmful behaviour. It's a reminder of this truth: Someone's inability to hold space for you does not mean you were asking for too much. It means they didn't have the capacity to show up in the way you needed. Capacity is shaped by: • their healing • their self-awareness

• their emotional maturity • their life experiences

• their trauma

• their coping skills

• their willingness to grow

• and their relationship with themselves None of these have anything to do with your worth. Where women get stuck Women with deep hearts often fall into a painful cycle: "Maybe I expected too much." "Maybe I'm too emotional." "Maybe I needed too much reassurance." "Maybe I'm hard to love." No. You asked a chair to hold you, and it collapsed. That's not a reflection of you. It's a reflection of its capacity. Choosing better chairs Healthy support feels like: • steadiness • presence • emotional safety • stable communication • mutual effort

• accountability • softness and strength at the same time A good chair doesn't complain about your weight. A good chair doesn't wobble, crack, or disappear. A good chair simply holds - not perfectly, but consistently. The takeaway? Listen, beautiful: Your needs were never too heavy. Your voice was never too loud. Your heart was never too much. You were just trying to sit in chairs that couldn't hold you -

chairs that weren't built for depth

or truth

or emotional honesty

or the sacred weight of the woman you are becoming. Stop collapsing into unstable chairs. Start choosing the ones that were designed for your rise. Because you deserve support that doesn't buckle.